Peace and blessings in the precious name of Jesus! I welcome you again to this second series of our teaching on strong foundation for motherhood. I pray that you will experience a dramatic turnaround in your home, in Jesus name! Today, my focus will be on ‘How to Build a Strong Foundation for your Children’.
Motherhood is an intentional journey, the more intentional you are about doing the right thing; the more you have the tendencies of doing things the right way. The foundation of raising godly children cannot be laid on a faulty foundation. However, it is pertinent to build a solid foundation for your children’s life. Providing a solid foundation is a role not to be overemphasised as a godly mother. The destinies of your children are given to you to nurture; however, it is failure when as a mother you are unable to nurture the seed God has given to you.
How Then Do You Build This Solid Foundation?
Parenting is a full time job and should not be delegated for no reason to another person. As a mother, you have a firsthand influence on your child more than any other person. However, seek to build a stronger influence in the lives of your children, no matter how your job, ministry or vocation takes your time. Remember, your children are reflections of Christ and you; therefore, nurture them to represent God and your values thereby becoming a gift to the Church of God and the world at large.
The Bible says, For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son… (John 3:16). Sacrifice is inevitable as a mother. Do you want to build a solid foundation for your children? Then, you have to make sacrifices to ensure you give your best and all that God has planted inside of you will begin to manifest. You have to be selfless and willing to let go a great deal to the benefit of your children. Seek to offer your children a better life through sacrifice.
To build a strong foundation for a child as a parent, you have to learn the act of discipline. The Bible says, He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes (Proverbs 13:24). When you discipline your child, you ease yourself of worries tomorrow and in turn instill a good mannerism in the child to give a viable solid future.
As a mother, you have to teach your children to take responsibilities for their actions and choices, this will teach them how to make good and wise choices in life. A child who learns how to take responsibilities for his/her actions will always learn to stay away from evil. Early training, shaping and molding in these all-important behaviours helps develop long lasting habits of respect and responsibility towards others and their possessions. This restraints in dealing with their own emotions.
As a mother who want to build a solid foundation for her child, one of the inevitable tenets that you need to teach your children is diligence. It is important to teach them that success is the result of hardwork. Teach them that hardwork pays and it is the only means to have a desired destiny. Success is not by chance or luck but by hardwork, be realistic with what it takes to achieve success in life, make sure they know that diligence requires efforts and the results is worth the efforts.
Speak Positive Words
Your children becomes what you call them. If you speak negativity to them, they automatically become negative. When children grow up in their subconscious mind, what they hear is their parents’ voices. Remember, as a mother, you have greater influence of speaking the right words to your children. Make sure you invest into your children with positive and edifying words, learn to filter your words because, Death and life are in the power of the tongue… (Proverbs 18:21). Whatever you speak into the life of your child as a mother manifest. The Bible says, Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man (Colossians 4:6).
As a mother, never hold a grudge against your children or anyone around you. Remember, children learn from what they see you do as a parent, especially a mother because of her level of influence on the children. Teach them to understand that there is no need to hold back a grudge, every resentments should be said out politely and subtly. Teach them that an unforgiving heart is like a dirty tap, which can only run dirty water, if they don’t get rid of unforgiveness, they are leaving so much debris inside of them.
As a godly mother, it is pertinent you teach your children how to trust and believe God for everything. Teach them that they should be confident in God and believe Him to provide them with all their physical, material or emotional needs. Instead of focusing on what they lack, they should always speak of the sufficiency in their life and be grateful. Teach them to have absolute dependence on God, that whatever God cannot give them, no one else can ever give them.
Accept Jesus as Saviour
As a mother, for you to build a solid relationship with God, you have to show your children the way to salvation. Allow them to accept Jesus as their Lord and personal Saviour. You need to pave ways for your children to establish a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. This is a secret of success in your motherhood assignment. Jesus said, …Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven (Matthew 19:14)
No matter who you are, your race, colour, culture, background notwithstanding, you need your children saved. This requires you taking them for Bible studies, engage them in family prayers and devotions, teach them how to pray and answer any question they may ask you from the Word of God. This increases their zeal for the things of God from a tender age. That connection must be kept in place all the time; never allow anything to separate you or your children from Jesus Christ.
However, until you are born again, you cannot raise your children in the path you don’t understand as you cannot give what you don’t have. To be born again, you have to confess your sins and accept Jesus as your personal Lord and Saviour. If you are ready for this new birth experience, say this prayer in Faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin, pride, arrogance and self-pity and all the lies of satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom, in Jesus name! Amen.
Congratulations! Now you have been empowered with grace to build a solid foundation throughout your motherhood journey here on earth; welcome to a hitch-free parenthood journey and experience, in Jesus name! Amen. Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Understanding Motherhood, Making Marriage work, Success in Marriage (co authored) and Raising Godly Children.